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“What is wrong with me?” is a question almost everyone asks from time to time. Feeling overwhelmed, stressed, or stuck can create moments of self-doubt or even long-term feelings of not measuring up or not being good enough. In some cases, you may ask this question because you’re in a situation that has you wondering whether you can make it through.

Whatever the cause of your feelings that something is wrong with you, know that there are actions you can take to start to feel better. It’s also important not to push that feeling away when it comes. Instead, take the time to sit with them and explore them. If the thought of doing that feels overwhelming, consider talking to a mental health professional about what you are going through. 

Why You Feel Like Something Is Wrong With You 

Do you ever have that sinking feeling that everything is just off? Life’s happening so fast it seems like you can’t keep up, and you start to think, “Maybe *I’m* the problem. What’s wrong with me?” From temporary life setbacks to enduring a long physical or mental illness, there are multiple potential reasons why you might feel that something is wrong.

Whatever the cause, it’s easy to fall into a spiral where you feel like you can’t function, can’t do anything right, and will never find your way out. It’s important to remember that we all have this feeling sometimes. Getting to the bottom of why it’s happening can help you figure out how to tackle it without blaming yourself.

Check the list below and see if any of these resonate with you.

Feeling Overwhelmed 

When you think about something being wrong with you, is it mostly a feeling of being overwhelmed or that you can’t think straight? Or do you feel like you can’t keep up with all your obligations and the things you need to do? You may even be so overwhelmed that you feel like you’re drowning.

Feeling overwhelmed is a common experience. Sometimes, the feeling that something is wrong with you might reflect that you simply have a very challenging set of life circumstances. It might mean that you have an overly demanding job, heavy family responsibilities, financial stress, or any other number of situations that would lead to feeling like you can’t keep up with the pace of life. 

Feeling Stuck 

Do you feel somehow stuck in your life, as though everyone else has things figured out, but you don’t? Or are you struggling to get over a breakup, move on from a job you hate, or free yourself of a toxic relationship?

It isn’t uncommon for people to feel stuck in the same place. You might feel like you’re just going through the same motions every day but not making any progress, which can leave you feeling bored and unsatisfied.

Feeling Lonely 

Loneliness has been linked to chronic health problems like heart and lung disease and is a major risk factor for mental health issues like anxiety and depression.

A number of factors can leave you feeling alone or lonely. Perhaps you have strained relationships with family or anxiety about making new friends. You may even feel lonely when you are with your friends or family.  

Usually, feeling that there is something wrong with you because you are lonely means that you struggle to make the right social connections.

Personal Relationship Issues

Problems in your social life can lead to feelings of unhappiness. You may feel like your parents or close family aren’t supporting you. You may be having trouble finding a significant other, or perhaps you’re still feeling the loss of the relationship with a former partner. You may even feel like it’s difficult to relate to your friends or other people in your close social circle.

Problems at Work

Your job can create a lot of stress, especially if you’ve just taken a new position or changed employers.

It’s common to feel stress at work. Taking on too many responsibilities, working too many hours, or having a lot of outstanding tasks to complete can contribute to feelings of stress or inadequacy. Co-workers can sometimes also contribute to these feelings.

Experiencing Trauma 

If you’ve been asking what is wrong with you, it may be because you are experiencing trauma or recovering from a traumatic experience. This could be obvious trauma, such as losing a loved one, being the victim of violence, or experiencing a tragic life circumstance such as a house fire.

However, trauma can also come about in more insidious ways, such as living with a narcissistic abuser. Trauma in all forms can have a significant impact on your mental state.

Experiencing Physical Illness 

Are your feelings of something being wrong related to your body? Whether you have a diagnosed illness and are experiencing new symptoms, or you have symptoms that have yet to be understood or diagnosed, you are probably feeling confused and worried about what is going on with your body.

In this case, it’s perfectly normal to think, “What is wrong with me?” Often, the answer lies in getting to the bottom of the problem through help from a medical professional. 

Lacking Self Worth 

Sometimes the feeling that something is wrong with you can originate in low self-esteem or low self-worth. Whether or not this feeling reflects reality isn’t really important; it’s your perception of yourself that impacts your mindset.  

Often, the solution is to identify the core values underlying your self-esteem problem, which might be rooted in feelings of shame or guilt. 

Facing Mental Health Issues 

Sometimes, feeling this way can be a symptom of something deeper, like a mental health concern. One last potential cause of feeling like there’s something wrong with you could be a diagnosable mental illness such as depression, an anxiety disorder, or a personality disorder.

How to Cope

Regardless of the reason why you feel like there is something wrong with you, there are things you can do to reduce those feelings. Your choice of coping method will depend on the specific cause. 

Plan to Calm Down 

Sometimes, the thought that something is wrong with you can come on suddenly and provoke anxiety and negative emotions. In this case, the best first step is to do something to calm down.  

To set this in motion, put together a list of “calm down activities” that you can reference whenever this happens. Below are some ideas of things that you can put on this list of calm-down activities.

Then, remember to pull it out and start working through the list whenever feel down on yourself or you feel as though you can’t calm down. 

Forgive Yourself

Forgiving yourself isn’t always easy, but showing yourself some grace can go a long way toward helping your feel better. Sometimes, we expect too much from ourselves, and it can be helpful to remember that no one is perfect.

Try not to beat yourself up when you make a mistake or because you’re unable to meet your own expectations. Instead, try to learn from your mistakes and remember that everyone else is imperfect, too.

Make an Action Plan 

If your feelings are tied to specific problems in your life, make an action plan. While it might feel easier to get stuck in a negative mindset, taking action will create more motivation to keep going when things get hard. 

The actions that you plan to take will depend on your circumstances but could be any of the following: 

• Seek help from a mental health professional.
• Find a different job that is better suited to your talents.
• Set attainable goals that will help you feel like you’re moving forward.
• Focus on achieving one thing at a time. This can help you feel less overwhelmed.
• Work to improve your relationships (e.g., family relationships, friendships, romantic relationships).
• Develop hobbies or passions (e.g., taking up a sport, learning how to knit).
• Read self-help books on topics that interest you.
• Finding an accountability partner to keep you moving forward.

Observe Your Body 

Now that you’ve calmed down and made an action plan to deal with the problems you are facing, it’s important to monitor how you are feeling so you can stop the negative spiral before it gets out of control.

When you are more in tune with the feelings in your body, you’ll be better able to do things that improve your mood and outlook. 

Below are some feelings you might be having and some things that you can do about them. 

• Overwhelm/brain fog: Do a brain dump and make a to-do list or plan of action to take everything out of your head and put it down on paper.
• Tired: Go to bed at the same time and get up at the same time each day; make sure you are getting enough sleep (not too little but also not too much).
• Restless/can’t sit still: Go for a walk or get some exercise (e.g., high-intensity interval training, treadmill walking, yoga).
• Pain/soreness: Pinpoint the problem and look for solutions (e.g., call your doctor).
• If you feel tense or unable to relax, Practice deep breathing, meditation, or progressive muscle relaxation (PMR).

Schedule Time to Worry 

Now that you’ve started to monitor your body, you’ll also want to monitor your mind. You can do this by scheduling a worry period each day, during which you write down everything that is worrying you the most.

Then, you can either make a plan of action on how to solve each problem or change the way you are thinking about the problem (for example, you may feel as though you are blowing it out of proportion or creating a catastrophe out of nothing). 

During the worry period, make sure that you are not just focused on the problems. The goal is to come up with actionable solutions or ways to deal with what’s on your mind. Make a list of worries, come up with solutions, or change your thinking about the problems.  

Practice Self Care 

You should specifically schedule self-care time into your day. Self-care refers to anything that keeps you feeling good (both physically and mentally). Below are some things you can do to practice good self-care during your day. 

• Get enough sleep (7-8 hours a day; no more than 10 or you will feel more tired).
• Eat a healthy diet (enough protein and fiber) and avoid junk food, caffeine, alcohol, etc.
• Get regular exercise. Get your heart rate up and stretch your muscles. Taking 10,000 steps a day is a good goal, but 5,000 should be the minimum.
• Plan time for rest each day (e.g., take breaks if you are working in front of a computer, and make sure you have screen-free time).
• Plan time for things you enjoy each day (e.g., reading your favorite book, or watching a favorite television show).
• Get outside in nature (this helps you get vitamin D and take a break).

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See a Mental Health Professional 

Do you have a traumatic past, or are you dealing with a difficult life situation? Do you think you may be struggling with a mental health disorder? In that case, your best course of action will be to seek the help of a mental health professional. 

Medication can help you to feel better as well as make it easier to practice the skills you will learn in therapy. Therapy can help you to dig through your past and change how you view your present. 

Cope With Anxiety 

Beyond seeking help from a mental health professional, there are also things you can do on your own if you believe you are living with anxiety. Below are some ideas to get you started. 

• Take a supplement such as Ashwagandha to feel calmer. Research evidence suggests that this herb may be helpful for a number of brain disorders.
• Use essential oils such as lavender.
• Engage in relaxation exercises such as progressive muscle relaxation (PMR).
• Take breaks from social media and the news.
• Read self-help books or listen to podcasts from experts on reducing anxiety.
• Get regular exercise, such as going for walks, doing yoga, or stretching. 

Cope With Depression 

What if you are living with depression? Be sure to first see a mental health professional to see if medication or therapy may be helpful in your situation. Depression can interfere with your thinking and make you feel as though there is no use in getting help or that others have problems worse than yours, so you do not deserve help.

If that is your situation, try talking to someone you trust about how you are feeling. See if they can make an appointment for you. 

Beyond seeing a professional, here are some things you can do if you are living with depression: 

• Avoid alcohol: Alcohol is a depressant and can make depression worse.
• Get regular exercise: Exercise releases endorphins that can make you feel better, if only temporarily.
• Keep a regular sleep schedule: Too much or too little sleep has been associated with depression.
• Challenge your negative thought processes: Find a self-help book about cognitive-behavioral therapy for depression to help you do this.
• Take baby steps every day: If you feel overwhelmed, try to take one small step toward whatever you are trying to accomplish; this will help you to get momentum to start moving and doing more.
• Track your mood daily: Rate it on a scale from 1 to 10, and write down daily stressors.
• Keep a happiness journal: Write down things you are grateful for and the small successes. 

Accept Unhappiness 

While there is an ideal of happiness, it is true that nobody can be happy all of the time. We will all experience good and bad times in our lives, whether that is from one day to the next, or one year to the next.

Of course, if you are struggling with a mental health issue, that should never be ignored. But, it’s safe to reject the idea that everyone needs to be happy all of the time.

If a particular situation has caused unhappiness, recognize that your feelings right now aren’t necessarily going to be your feelings forever. When you let go of the idea of eternal happiness, you allow yourself to accept your feelings and emotions, which paradoxically might make you feel a little bit better. 

What to Do When Nothing Is Wrong 

Wondering “what is wrong with me” can be most perplexing when it seems like there is nothing objectively wrong with your life. If, to the outside observer, your life appears to be going well, what could possibly be causing you to feel this way?

Beyond the possibility of depression or another mental health issue, there could be a number of different reasons you feel this way. Below are some possible causes: 

• You might be trying to live up to the ideals of others rather than following your own values.
• You might not feel challenged in your job or wish you had chosen a different path.
• You might have achieved a big goal or milestone and now feel aimless about your future path.
• You might be bored with some aspect of your life and wish you could change.

However, there doesn’t have to be anything catastrophically wrong with your life for you to feel that there is something wrong with you. In cases like this, writing in a journal could help you get to the bottom of your feelings. This is especially true if there is no mental health concern that would nudge you toward seeing a therapist. 

When writing in your journal, be curious and ask yourself questions about what would make you feel better. Keep digging until you start to find some answers. The process of free writing can be a helpful way to unearth emotions that you might not be in touch with during your daily life.

Each of us spend about two hours each night dreaming, and dreams typically occur in the REM portion of our sleep cycle. While the purpose and meaning behind our dreams isn’t entirely understood, the basic theory is that dreams help us process and understand our emotions. As such, if you are dreaming about someone dying, this is likely reflective of an emotional and mental health state you are in.

“Dreaming about someone dying can have a variety of meanings, depending on your life situation,” says Carolina Estevez, PsyD and a clinical psychologist at Infinite Recovery. “These dreams can be unsettling, but ultimately represent a positive change in direction and potential growth in the future.”

Here, we’ll take a closer look at what dreaming about someone dying may mean, including different versions of this type of dream, and what help is out there if your are finding these dreams upsetting to experience.

Why Do You Dream Of Someone Dying?

When it comes to understanding the meaning of our dreams, there isn’t one definitive way to interpret dreams, and there are several theories out there to explain what our dreams might mean.

The interpretation of dreams goes back to ancient history, with figures like Hippocrates theorizing that dreams signal an underlying disease we may have. Sigmund Freud, the founder of psychoanalysis, believed that dreams were symbolic of our unconscious impulses and emotional conflicts. Carl Jung believed that dreams represent certain archetypal symbols and believed that dreams could help us learn more about ourselves and offer solutions to some of our personal conflicts.

When it comes to dreams about deaths specifically, Dr. Estevez says that the meaning behind these dreams depends on the context and will vary from one person to another.

“It could also represent the act of letting go of something like an old belief system or habit.” Sometimes dreaming about death is associated with a fear of mortality, Dr. Estevez adds.

Tzivia Gover, certified dreamwork professional and the author of three books on sleep and dreams, says that dreams about death usually have hidden metaphors in them, and that dreams about dying are often a metaphor for some type of ending or completion. “For example, you might dream about death at a time of transition in your life, when a job, a relationship, or your attachment to an old way of behaving is ending and you are on the verge of something new,” she says.

We asked these dream experts to help us analyze a variety of different types of dreams about death. Here are their comments on some common types of death dreams.

What Does It Mean When You Dream Of Death Of A Family Member?

“It’s not surprising that when we dream of death, the dream usually centers on someone we’re close to, such as a family member or intimate friend,” says Gover. “That’s because most of our worries about loss stem from our closest relationships, and these are the people who are on our minds, and about whom we have strong feelings.”

What these dreams symbolize depend on the relationship you have with the person you are dreaming about, says Dr. Estevez. “These dreams may symbolize unresolved issues with that person, or the wish for more closeness and understanding between you,” she explains. Sometimes, these dreams suggest fears of abandonment or rejection from this person. They would also express a desire to protect them from harm, Dr. Estevez says.

What Does It Mean When You Dream About Your Partner Dying?

There are many ways to interpret a dream you have about your partner or spouse dying. Again, it all depends on your particular relationship and the contents of your dream.

“These dreams could indicate that some kind of change is coming in your relationship—either good or bad—and that you need to prepare yourself emotionally for what’s ahead,” Dr. Estevez describes. Gover agrees that often dreams about intimate partners dying mean that some type of change is on the horizon.

What Does It Mean If You See Someone’s Corpse?

Having a dream about a dead body can be eerie and quite scary. “Seeing a corpse in your dream may symbolize fear of death, as well as fears associated with mortality such as aging and loss,” says Dr. Estevez. Alternatively, it may represent the end of something that was important to you, she says, such as a relationship or career.

What Does It Mean If You Attend Someone’s Funeral?

Finding yourself attending someone’s funeral in a dream can also be disturbing. Often, these types of dream represent a type of rite of passage, Gover says—a way of saying a final goodbye. And these goodbyes may not always be directly linked to the person whose funeral you’re dreaming out. “Ask yourself, what are you saying goodbye to in your life?,” Gover suggests. “Is there a relationship, a life phase, or a job whose ending you are mourning?”

What Does It Mean If You Witnessed Someone’s Death?

Watching someone die is one of the scariest dreams that people have, especially if it’s someone you love deeply or who you are trying to protect. There are many ways to interpret these dreams, and they aren’t always necessarily about the person who died in your dream.

You can get clues about the dream’s meaning based on how the person in the dream died. Gover explains. “For example: if they are suffocating, ask how you might be feeling like you ‘can’t breathe’ in a situation or in a relationship,” she says. “If someone is being attacked, ask what part of your life you are feeling attacked in.”

What to Do When You Dream About Someone Dying

For some people, having a dream about someone dying can be upsetting, but they are able to move past it after waking up and going about their day. But for others, having dreams about someone dying can be distressing.

“Your dream is most likely speaking in metaphors—rather than predicting the untimely death of yourself or a loved one,” Gover assures. She recommends writing the dream down in a journal or talking about it with a friend as a way to process it and understand its meaning.

Sometimes, though, if the dreams recur, or if they are extremely upsetting, you might need further help. In these cases, connecting with a mental health professional can be helpful.

“A qualified psychologist can help you gain insight into the meaning of the dream and gain more insight into your thought life and subconscious,” says. Dr. Estevez. “They can also help you work through any fears or unresolved issues that the dream is bringing up, as well as develop new coping strategies to deal with them.”

Generativity vs. stagnation is the seventh stage of Erik Erikson’s theory of psychosocial development. This stage occurs during middle adulthood, between the approximate ages of 40 and 65. It comes before the eighth and final stage of development in Erikson’s theory, which is integrity vs. despair.

During this stage, middle-aged adults strive to create or nurture things that will outlast them, often by parenting children or fostering positive changes that benefit others. Contributing to society and doing things to promote future generations are important needs at the generativity vs. stagnation stage of development.

It’s important to note that life events at this stage tend to be less age-specific than they are during early- and late-stage life. The major events that contribute to this stage (such as marriage, work, and child-rearing) can occur at any point during the broad span of middle adulthood.

What Are Generativity and Stagnation?

To understand this stage of middle adulthood development, it’s helpful to know what the terms generativity and stagnation mean.

Generativity

Generativity refers to “making your mark” on the world by caring for others, as well as through creating and accomplishing things that make the world a better place. Key characteristics of generativity include:

• Developing relationships with family
• Making commitments to other people
• Mentoring others
• Contributing to the next generation

These sorts of actions are frequently realized through having and raising children. Those who are successful during this phase feel that they are contributing to the world by being active in their home and community.

Stagnation

Stagnation refers to the failure to find a way to contribute. Stagnant individuals may feel disconnected or uninvolved with their community or with society as a whole. Some characteristics of stagnation include:

• Being self-centered (narcissism)
• Failing to get involved with others
• Not taking an interest in productivity
• No efforts to improve the self
• Placing one’s concerns above all else

Those who fail to attain the generativity skill feel unproductive in and uninvolved with the world.

What Contributes to Generativity?

There are a number of factors that can contribute to the development of either generativity or stagnation during middle age. Here are a few to consider.

Pride in Work and Family

This aspect of the generativity vs. stagnation stage is centered on the sense of pride that adults take in their families and children. In many ways, it mirrors the autonomy vs. shame and doubt stage of early childhood.

Pride can occur through parenting, although not all people who produce offspring become supportive and giving parents. Plus, those who do not have children are still able to give to the next generation in meaningful ways.

Feeling Included

Feeling part of something, whether it is a family unit or a larger group or community, is essential for the development of generativity. This centers on the scope of caregiving activities and on what and who an individual is willing to include in their life.

Research indicates that participating in social organizations can assist with developing generativity by providing feelings of inclusion. This reflects the trust vs. mistrust stage of early childhood.

Taking Responsibility

As people go through adulthood, they must choose whether to take responsibility for their lives and choices. This reflects the initiative vs. guilt stage seen earlier during childhood.

People who take responsibility are more likely to feel empowered and in control of their lives and destiny. This helps lead to a sense of making a contribution to the world.

Feeling Productive

Work plays a major role in adulthood, so it’s no surprise that an individual’s sense of pride and accomplishment in their work can lead to feelings of productivity. This stage mirrors the industry vs. inferiority stage of childhood.

Making Contributions

As the generativity stage draws to a close and people approach the final stage of life, finding meaning plays an increasingly critical role. People reach a point where they are beginning to reflect back on their lives and accomplishments, making it important to feel that these achievements have left a lasting mark on the world.

Benefits of Generativity

When adults develop a sense of generativity, they benefit from several important advantages, including better health, improved relationships, and a feeling of fulfillment.

• Better Health. Research suggests that generativity can provide a greater motivation to initiate and maintain healthy behaviors. People who feel that they have the power to make a difference may be more likely to pursue health-promoting activities because they believe that such actions can be meaningful.
• More Positive Relationships. For many adults, parenting plays a key role in the development of a sense of generativity, but it is not the only path. Erikson himself suggested that participating in the lives of others (whether they are one’s children, friends, or others) is an important way to gain a sense of making a contribution and difference in the world.
• Greater Community Involvement. During the early part of adulthood, parenting and family tend to be the dominant factors contributing to the development of generativity. However, research has also found that giving assistance to others, often in the form of civic engagement, plays a role in generativity as people age.
• Enhanced Productivity. The actions required to develop a sense of generativity involve taking an active, participatory role in the world. Generative people are productive in a variety of ways, including teaching, mentoring, and volunteering—both in their personal lives as well as at work.
• Achieving a Sense of Fulfillment. Because generativity is focused on making contributions, people who are able to develop this skill are also more likely to experience a greater sense of satisfaction with themselves and with life in general. They are able to look at their life, family, and work and feel that they have lived a life of consequence and joy.

Consequences of Stagnation

When people fail to achieve generativity, they instead develop a sense of stagnation. Such feelings can have an impact on how people manage the later years of their lives. Some of the potential outcomes linked to stagnation include:

• Reduced cognitive function. A 75-year study found that less successful psychosocial development at this stage is correlated with weaker cognitive function later in life, potentially increasing the risk of depression, which leaves individuals more vulnerable to cognitive decline.
• Poorer health. Generativity has been linked to health outcomes in later life, so those who are left with a sense of stagnation may face worse health as they age.
• Lower-quality relationships. Because the development of generativity is linked to healthy relationships with others, stagnation may result from poor-quality social connections. This can be a problem as people age since social relationships play an important part in healthy aging.
• Decreased life satisfaction. People who don’t achieve a sense of generativity are less likely to feel satisfied with their lives. They may look at their lives with regret, a sense of boredom, and overall dissatisfaction.

It is important to note that the way people interpret these regrets influences their well-being. Those who feel that they have made mistakes, wasted their time, and cannot change may be left feeling bitter. Others might use this crisis as an opportunity to make adjustments in their lives that will lead to greater fulfillment.

How to Improve Generativity

There are many ways to improve feelings of generativity vs, feelings of stagnation during middle adulthood. You can:

• Participate in your community: Research suggests that civic engagement helps foster generativity. So, look for ways to get involved in your community. Help out an organization, take part in community projects, or get involved in local activism. 
• Assume responsibilities: Since feeling productive in your work can help improve generativity, look for new ways to take on new tasks and roles. Take on a big project at work or explore ways to improve some aspect of your household.
• Learn new skills and share them with others: Take the time to learn a new skill, then share this skill with others via a teaching or mentoring opportunity.
• Volunteer: Making a difference in the lives of others can also build generativity. Your child’s school, your church, and community organizations are good places to look for volunteer opportunities.

How to Decrease Stagnation

Those who suffer from poor health, poor relationships, and feel that they have no control over their fate are more likely to experience feelings of stagnation. If you are feeling this way, there are things that you can do to feel more productive and involved.

• Explore a new hobby. Finding a new passion is a great way to feel more creative and inspired.
• Learn something new. Acquiring and then applying new skills can help you feel more productive.
• Find new sources of inspiration. When you are feeling stagnant, seek out things that help you feel inspired. You can then use these sources as a way to build motivation to tackle new things.
• Look for new opportunities. Even if you have become settled in your role at work or home, it is important to look for new ways to feel challenged, useful, and productive.

Finding ways to combat stagnation can help you stay more active, engaged, and satisfied with your life as you age.

Personality is a major part of what defines us as human beings because it combines all the emotional, behavioral, and intellectual components of how we interact with the world. 

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While there may be certain fixed elements of our personalities, they generally develop as a result of our environments, meaning our experiences throughout our lives have the power to influence our personas. Take this personality test to find out your dominant traits.

Who Is This Quiz For?

The funny thing about personality is that we might have an idea about our own, and our friends could have an entirely different perspective. That’s why we as humans are drawn to tests like these because they can give us more objective information about who we are. 

The truth is, there are numerous ways to assess your personality and plenty of reasons to do so. Whether it’s Myers-Briggs, DISC, the Big 5, or your astrological birth chart, a single personality quiz certainly can’t provide all the answers, nor are they hard science.

This quiz includes six different personality types or general character categories you could classify yourself as, but it is by no means an exhaustive explanation of who you are. 

That being said, if you’re on the journey of learning more about yourself, it’s a good place to start. Our goal is to provide a little clarity around a certain aspect of your personality that you add to your self-discovery toolkit. 

“Because there are so many aspects of our lives that shape our decisions, opinions, and feelings, no one personality quiz is going to illuminate them all,” says Owens. “But it’s a jumping-off point if you’d like to learn more about why you make the choices you make, why you react to certain things in certain ways, and what your tendencies might be in the future.”

What This Test Actually Says About Your Personality

Sorry to get a little cliche, but it’s worth saying: We are all multidimensional beings made up of a million pieces of colorful glass glued together. These complex and beautiful mosaics look different depending on the lighting, so it’s tough to find the exact words to describe them.

For instance, this quiz may tell you you have more introverted tendencies. Does this mean you are a shy, timid little mouse incapable of being social or going to parties? Hell no! But it could highlight a more dominant part of your personality that could be influencing your day-to-day life.

Being on the shy side isn’t a bad thing, but it’s important to have confidence as well—perhaps that’s something you could get better at!

Conversely, this quiz might confirm that you’re usually the most enthusiastic and charming person in the room. This is a good thing, certainly, but it could bring up some points of introspection. Are you taking enough time for yourself to rest and recharge? Could any of your charm be rooted in people-pleasing tendencies?

Again, there’s nothing wrong with having dominant elements of your personality—no one is perfectly balanced—but it’s healthy to ask yourself these kinds of questions from time to time. 

“We’re all experts about ourselves, but even experts still have things to learn,” adds Owens. “Digging deeper into your personality can only lead to more self-awareness and more self-empathy.”

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If you’re interested in some of the other tests mentioned above, try one of our other free quizzes to see how you respond to different personality metrics: